How can i get big mixed 360 waves?

i am a black nd puerto rican 16 year out male. ma hair is wavey but when i brush it down it sticks back up, and my waves are small and theres alot of them. i want my hair to be soft,moist,wavey and easy to lay down, and i also want my waves spreaded out. can someone please yell me how i could get my hair to look like this i http://youtu.be/PpZgOXX0M7U PLEASE HELP ME PLEASE!! THANK YEW